Author Stories

Kay's Sales Breakthrough

Kay, an assertive real estate agent and single mother of three, had a difficult week at work, and called asking for help. I had worked with her successfully in the past and knew her personal history.

Kay had been working diligently for weeks on two real estate deals worth ten thousand dollars, and both had fallen through on Friday. She was counting on the money to support her and her children for the next three months. Once again, she found herself out of money, a frightening experience.

We met that Sunday afternoon at my home office. After a short centering meditation, Kay and I used the charts to research the problem. We wanted to know, why were her deals falling through when she was working so hard.

Using the pendulum and the Intuitive Charts, we quickly discovered a block to her inner masculine self. Abandoned by her birth father and stepfather, and raised by a teenage mom, Kay had inwardly carried this old anger, using it to defend herself and her children. Her loud and commanding words kept both men and women at bay, afraid they too would be cut by her words.

I suggested we enter into visualization. Together we saw Kay holding a shiny, large, and dangerous, sword. I asked, "Do you want to give this up and trust that you will be protected?" Somewhat divided, but wanting to be free, she said, "Yes, I do." Then in the next few minutes we forgave all the men in her life who had harmed her. Kay then forgave herself for any harm that she had done to any man. We concluded the session with a prayer to protect her children and herself.

To her great surprise that evening, Kay saw a friend who told her how much he valued and appreciated their friendship. Monday morning she drove to her Santa Cruz real estate office without plan or an appointment feeling that somehow everything would be ok. Shortly after arriving she took an incoming call that resulted in an appointment and a quick house sale. Later at home, she found a phone message from the office telling her a second sale was going through. When she checked her e-mail, there was a message from a client asking to meet her later. When they got together, he made an offer on a house. To top off the day, another real estate agent called to say he had saved last week's deal.

Kay called me late Monday night excited and amazed at her day. She told me her story and reported that this was the most lucrative day ever in her real estate career. She asked, "When can I make another appointment with you?"

What sword are you willing to give up?

Resolving Conflicts with Our Fathers

Sean is a web entrepreneur, author, and surfer with a wife and family. He decided to consult with me, because he felt like he wanted to earn more money for his family. He was working seventy plus hours on the three related, but separate web companies he owned, and for good reason, felt stretched thin.

After a short centering meditation we began. The pendulum and charts led to the People Chart and the Challenges & Issues Chart, indicating he had a conflict with his father. I asked Sean about it, and he told me that he grew up with not one, but two fathers. His birth father was the adventurous dad, a smart risk taker, who had drinking problems and left the family when Sean was young. His stepfather, who his mother later married, though overly strict, in contrast, had been devoted to the family, and in the same job for twenty-five years.

In the discussion that followed it become obvious that Sean felt pulled in different directions by these two men. He loved his fun, birth father, but was still was angry about his father's leaving the family when he was a child. At the same time he was close to his stepfather, who supported his mother and provided a loving and warm home for the family.

I then led Sean into a guided visualization to further discover and resolve the inner conflict. In the meditative process, Sean was able to verbalize his feelings and talk with both fathers. He was grateful that his father was now sober. Then he spent time with his stepfather. He was able to appreciate the unique gifts that both fathers had respectively given him, leading him to become both an adventurous spirit and a loyal family man. Quietly, Sean continued to spend a few minutes forgiving and thanking them. He was able to see that there was no conflict with what they had taught him, that he had learned valuable lessons from them both.

Afterwards, while talking with Sean, it became clear, that in trying to please both fathers, he had not yet decided what he truly wanted. In attempting to control the conflict and deny the emotions, he was unable to relax, to trust himself fully, or to delegate work to others. Sean's next task was going to be to focus on one or two projects that would have the best financial potential, and to get help to realize his dreams.

It is my experience that until we resolve our "father issues," it is often difficult to manifest a truly prosperous life. A month later Sean told me that the one-hour consultation had greatly improved his relationship with his fathers. He felt as if he had truly forgiven them and himself, and that he could more freely enjoy and appreciate them for who they are.

He reported that he had been focusing on his web application business and it seemed to be taking off. In addition, he had the opportunity to buy a beautiful home in a less expensive area. He said he still worked too many hours, but that he was enjoying his life more. Sean, a bright, aware entrepreneur is now on his path to greatness.

Who do you need to forgive? What conflicts do you need to resolve so that you can move forward in your working life?